The Difference Between Giving Up and Moving On

The saying goes “Winners never quit and Quitters never win.” But, what if the thing that you quit is no longer good or healthy? What if it no longer works for you. Sometimes, we forget to remember that there is a difference between giving up on something and moving on from something. As a result, we often hold on to something which we would benefit from eliminating from our lives. We recognize how much energy it sucks from our day-to-day or even week to week, but we hold on because we “…don’t want to give up.”

In case you need the reminder, I’m here to tell you today: Sometimes it’s okay, not to mention necessary, to move on. And moving on and giving up are not synonymous. If something is causing you unnecessary drama or depleting you of more energy than you are willing to spare, and the only reason you haven’t reduced or eliminated contact with it yet is because you keep thinking “I don’t want to be a quitter,” please know that you won’t be.

Recognizing the things that add unnecessary negativity to your life and deciding to drop them by no means makes you a quitter. It makes you smart, it makes you reflective. It means you know how to evaluate and take note of the things that are going on in your life and you know how to hand-pick the controllable elements of your surroundings.

For me, it was a job that I had. A place that I was ecstatic about all throughout the hiring process and for a quite a while after I was hired. But, oh dear goodness it did not stay that way. I noticed it wasn’t the right place for me fairly early on, but I stayed because I wanted to triumph and prove that I could do the job and excel in the position. I stayed because I didn’t want to be a quitter… and not just in the literal sense.

Maybe for you it’s a job as well. Or maybe a it’s a person, a program of study at your university, a lifestyle that no longer feels right. What ever it is, if it no longer feels right for you because it’s sucking you dry, making you unhappy or adding unnecessary mental ‘noise’, then by all means, drop it like a hot potato. Of course, do so responsibly. In other words, don’t quit your job if you don’t have another one lined up, do some research before you change majors, etc. But, you already knew that ;).

So, if you ask me, “Winners never quit and Quitters never win.” only rings true if you’re in some sort of competition. Life is not a competition. So if moving on from something is going to improve your life and well-being, do you girl! Life’s to short not to.


How do you empower yourself to move on when the time comes? Leave a comment below!

Until next time,

<3 Lae


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